Codependency is a difficult and challenging aspect of addiction, but through the help of coaches, those struggling with codependency issues can experience rewarding outcomes. Codependency coaches provide wonderful opportunities to acquire the perfect spirit of courage, wisdom, creativity, fulfillment, and the ability to live free from the chains of codependency.
Sharing with you her passion as a codependency coach, here’s an interview with Debbie Sherrick.
How does Holistic Codependency Coaching work?
Holistic Codependency is a different approach then regular healing of this behavior which usually just works on the mind and thinking. Holistic is the whole of the person for healing. I work with their physical body (foods, exercise, nutrition, health issues from emotions, etc), the mind/body connection and spirituality.
What drove you to the path of holistic health counseling and codependency life coaching?
Growing up on a farm in Indiana, my great grandmother was an herbalist and taught me, as a child, about alternative medicine and foods. We ate from the earth and treated our cows and chickens with love, using no antibiotics or hormones.
I was taught "let thy food be thy medicine and thy medicine thy food." I expanded my holistic wellness business into being a holistic codependency coach because I grew up in an abusive alcoholic home where I was the oldest and learned to rescue, enable, and care take at an early age.
Why choose to help codependent individuals rather than people who struggle with other types of issues?
Codependency and the pain of it, the effects of it, are my passion and heart – I want to help others out of these behaviors. It is because of my own experiential experiences with it. I have had many addicts in my family and life to practice on!
What is the difference between codependency and addiction?
I believe the difference is that the addict is addicted to a substance and looks to that for unresolved emotions and escape. Codependency can be just as powerful of an addiction - getting the love they think they need from others to be whole. Both come from shame and I believe all addicts are also codependent and eventually should be working on their relationship issues.
For you, personally, what are your greatest achievements in helping codependents recover?
My greatest reward would be seeing others shift and transform as they work through their issues and get to the root of the problem, especially if they are clients who have been working on this for years without shifting. Seeing others finally become empowered and have healthy self-love is very rewarding. I always say that,
"It is safe to look within. The inside will create and change your outside conditions. Always"
What sparked the idea of starting Insideout Wellness Coach?
I named my business that because so many people look to the Outside to fill that hole of what is missing on the Inside, just as I did. People try relationships, food, religion, sex, addiction, performance, success, etc. I have found that until we work on the Inside and get to the root, does it start to show up positively on the Outside.
Was there ever a time that a codependent client of yours wanted to give up? If so, what did you tell them in order to keep them on track?
Oh yes! When people have to do the deep work of childhood beliefs and it gets painful, people will want to sabotage and give up. The behaviors are familiar even though they are painful. People will want to stay stuck in them until the next crises.
When they are sick and tired of being sick and tired, they will change.
When you want it bad enough, you will do the work. I really never force anyone as they must make up their minds to do it and then I will be their greatest support and motivator!
A coach is different than a therapist.
A good coach will help client create an action plan they must implement every day. They must do the work. A coach cheers them on, encourages, and creates a plan for winning! However, they have to do the work the coach suggests in order to see positive results. I tell them, in order to get to the good feelings and changes, “you have to go through the dark stuff and keep climbing up out of the hole.” It will be so worth it when that light starts shining through in their life and circumstances.
What is your advice to people with codependency issues who hasn’t sought help yet?
I guess it would be that there is hope and the change must begin with them, not with the people in their life. Everything and every relationship can change if they are willing to make the changes themselves. The journey is all about learning to love ourselves enough that we attract healthier relationships.
The more we love and respect ourselves, the more all of our relationships will mirror that back to us. We are not victims and life does not just happen to us. We can take back our lives and have a happy, joy-filled life regardless of what is going on around us. I’m a perfect example of that. I have lived it and done everything I suggest clients do. I know it works if you work it! My motto is "To Thine Own Self Be True". Something codependents don't know how to do, but can learn how to do this without guilt and start taking responsibility for their own lives.